Who doesn’t want to be able to detect a lie? Maybe the spouse with an unfaithful partner, but we’ll save that for another conversation; however, the rest of the world wants to know. And this is why you’ll find articles on it, blogs on it, and videos on it like this one: How To Tell If Someone Is Lying Not to shake the foundation of your belief system, but just because it’s on the internet doesn’t mean it is accurate. Yes, we all know this, yet we also see a credible looking piece of video like the one in the hyperlink above and we can’t help but feel there’s a kernel of truth to it. Don’t listen to that feeling, as the video above is at best irresponsible.
If you want to embark on being a capable lie spotter here are some helpful hints and references:
- There is no ONE absolute “tell” for a lie.
- It takes a lot of work and coaching to be good at spotting lies.
- If you don’t work at it regularly, then like any other skill your powers to spot lies will fade.
But let’s say you want to get better at it, here are two books that are very helpful:
Liespotting, by Pamela Meyer. She does a great job of not only covering physical tells, but also verbal tells.
What Every BODY is Saying, by Joe Navarrro. His book is more on body language as a whole, but he touches on lies in his book as well. He also has a good book on poker tells if you’re into poker, which I am.